After years of fruitlessly chasing self-help advice, I discovered a counterintuitive approach that blew my mind. Life change seemed impossible until I stopped fighting reality and started leveraging it. Here’s why it works:
- Fighting reality is unsustainable. Trying to force emotions and control reality leads to exhaustion and unhappiness. When I shifted my mindset, the negative symptoms vanished, and contentment took over.
- Shifting perspective changes everything. Our minds shape our reality. Moving from fixed knowledge to a state of wonder unlocks new possibilities. Asking empowering questions opens up new realities, making change inevitable.
- Address all levels of context, not just actions or beliefs. For lasting change, focus on identity, beliefs, and behavior, and consider your relation to the Universe. An empowering identity thrives in a friendly universe.
This new mindset has transformed my life and countless others. Embrace reality, adopt curiosity, and consider the broader context to achieve powerful change. Join me in exploring this deeper in my emails.
Have you ever wondered why it’s so hard to make lasting change? Why no matter how hard you try, you seem to stay stuck? It’s as if something inside of you doesn’t want the positive change and is fighting tooth and nail to stop it?
If you’ve already experimented with various so-called “proven” techniques like motivational books, CD’s, seminars, NLP, affirmations and even hypnosis like I have, only to find yourself back where you started or worse, you are not alone.
But why? There are actually 2 main reasons:
1) Like many other self-help techniques, these methods work only on our conscious mind. However, our subconscious mind is at least 50% more powerful than our conscious mind because it’s responsible for 90% of our thoughts and behaviors. Problem is, while it’s more powerful, it’s also harder to change. Any attempt to change any major beliefs that were previously implanted in it is seen as unsafe and perceived as a threat. So any conflicting beliefs will simply trigger a revolt from your subconscious, your defenses automatically go up and you unknowingly produce the opposite of what you want.
2) I will share the 2nd reason with you in a few moments, but first, let’s play a quick mind game to see how your brain works:
You see, the human body sends 11 million bits per second to the brain for processing. Your eyes alone transmit about 10 million bits of information per second. Your 4 other senses add over 1 million more bits per second. Yet from all these, your conscious mind can generally only process about 50 bits per second. The rest is process outside your conscious mind. This suggests that most of your activities actually take place beyond direct conscious control.
Think about that! So you’re literally only consciously experiencing a microscopic part of what’s actually there. As frightening or exciting as that may be, we never really get to experience the world as it is since most of our actions are carried out without much conscious interference.
So, what decides which of the 50 bits out of 11 million bits of information you’ll consciously “see” and therefore how you feel about the world around you and yourself?
The simple answer: you see what you habitually expect to see. What you believe you will see based on your beliefs. An area of your brain known as the Reticular Activating System (RAS) plays a vital role in determining which information is relevant and needing of your attention. In essence, the RAS acts as the filter between your conscious and subconscious mind by passing “instructions” from the former to the latter. Unfortunately, the instructions hardwired into this brain’s gateway are already limited by your pre-existing beliefs, contexts, past experience and expectations.
This filtering process between your conscious and subconscious mind is one of the 2 main reasons why it’s such a struggle to make lasting change. I’ll tell you why this is huge in this video…
But first, let’s get back to the picture.
Can you now see both the young woman AND the old woman?
If you saw both, that’s great! Most people see either the old woman OR the young one- even though both are there. And it has to do with which of the 50 bits per second your conscious mind processed out of the 11 million bps information being sent to it.
Aside from this fact that our brains only process a miniscule of what we sense, our minds are also bombarded with a lot of needless and anxious thoughts. Our brains are constantly on high alert, focusing on different things. In a day alone, you process around 12,000-50,000 thoughts, 70-80% of which are negative and then you simply tell yourself a few affirmations to change some of these. It’s just like trying to stop a raging river with a few pebbles!
With such a HUGH gap between the conscious and subconscious abilities, can you now see how saying affirmations or trying to change consciously is near impossible? Those self-help books, CD’s and other resources never make it beyond the critical filters of your conscious mind and its hardwired instructions so no real change can take effect.
But what if you could program your brain to see all the things about yourself and the life around you in a way to automatically find the dream life that’s been hidden in front of you all this time? What if you could allow this gate-keeper part of your brain to see more of the things you want?
Your brain actually thinks it’s protecting you by making change hard. For example, when you were younger, you may have raised your hand in class, only to be scolded by the teacher for having the wrong answer and laughed at. You may have asked yourself, “Why are people so mean?” “Why am I always wrong?” You brain then rushes in to give you the answer by making sure that you’re constantly in situations that fulfill your expectations.
Now, when you need to push beyond or step outside your limits, your old protection fights like hell to keep you from doing it because it thinks it’s unsafe. Hence, it will always find ways to contradict any new information.
So you see, your brain is not fighting against your efforts to make positive change because it’s evil or ridiculously stubborn; it thinks it’s fighting for your life- emotionally and physically. Your subconscious doesn’t understand reason or logic which many positive affirmations employ. It’s mainly governed by instinct, emotions, images, sensory input —something self-help resources lack making it hard to tap your subconscious where real changes happen.
Tap into the Power of Questions-
Asking questions is the ultimate procrastination-buster. It’s like taking a sledgehammer to the wall of indecision and paving a new path toward progress.
By simply asking a question, we create a mental framework that unlocks new perspectives and fresh insights. It’s like shining a light on a dark corner of our minds, revealing answers we never knew were there.
But not all questions are created equal. The right questions can be a game-changer, propelling us forward and expanding our horizons.
“How many ways can I?”
“How soon can I discover?”
These are the types of questions that challenge our assumptions, ignite our curiosity, and unlock the doors to unexplored territory.
And once we venture into uncharted waters, the possibilities are endless. The solutions we once thought were hidden behind impenetrable walls suddenly become visible, within reach.
It’s like stepping into a whole new world, full of opportunities for growth and development.
So let’s embrace the power of questioning. Let’s tap into our creativity, challenge our boundaries, and dare to explore the unknown.
Because when we do, we open ourselves up to a world of possibilities we never thought possible.
The 5 Rules of Q-firmations
1) Keep them positive: The questions in a q-firmation should always be framed positively. Instead of focusing on what you don’t want, focus on what you do want to achieve. Ask empowering questions that require an answer that you want!
For example, instead of saying “How can I avoid failure?”, say “How can I achieve success in this situation?”
2) Make them specific: Q-firmations should be specific and focused on the desired outcome. This will help you to be clear about what you want to achieve and stay focused on your goals.
For example, instead of saying “How can I improve my life?”, say “How can I create a fulfilling career that aligns with my values and passions?”
3) Use present tense: Q-firmations should be formulated in the present tense as if the desired outcome has already been achieved. This helps to create a sense of certainty and confidence that you can achieve your goals.
For example, instead of saying “How can I become successful?”, say “How many ways can I see that I am already successful?”
4) Avoid “why”: Questions that start with “why” tend to focus on the past or negative aspects of a situation. Instead, use “how” or “what” questions to encourage positive, forward-thinking solutions.
For example, instead of saying “Why am I not achieving my goals?”, say “How can I adjust my strategy to reach my goals?”
5) Include discovery and wonder: Q-firmations should be written with a sense of discovery and wonder. This encourages an open mind, allowing us to explore new ways of being and thinking that can lead to greater success.
For example, instead of saying “How can I get more done?”, say “What creative solutions can I discover that allow me to accomplish my goals in less time?”
The four key elements to creating lasting success with personal growth
When crafting q-firmations, it is important to address the four key elements of success: possibility, identity, belief, and action.
These elements are crucial for creating a well-rounded set of q-firmations that can help you achieve your goals.
By addressing each of these elements, you can create a comprehensive system for personal growth and lasting success. It also helps to create an environment for exploration and discovery, allowing you to find new solutions and gain new perspectives.
1) Possibility: This element helps you focus on the potential outcomes that can arise from a situation or challenge. It involves asking questions that help you explore different possibilities and opportunities. For example, “What are the different ways I can approach this problem to achieve my desired outcome?”
2) Identity: This element focuses on how you see yourself in relation to the situation or challenge. It involves asking questions that help you identify new ways of being in the world. For example, “How many ways can I discover that being a successful entrepreneur comes easy for me?”
3) Belief: This element helps you develop a positive mindset and cultivate confidence in your ability to succeed. It involves asking questions that stimulate new, positive thoughts and beliefs. For example, “How good can I feel as my belief in my abilities grows exponentially?”
4) Action: This element involves taking concrete steps toward achieving your goals. It involves asking questions that help you develop an action plan and stay motivated. For example, “What specific actions can I take today to move closer to my desired outcome?”
How Inner Asking Sets work:
1) They change the context of the area you’re trying to change and not just content
While the content of these NLP and affirmations are all positive, your context or mental programming remains all wrong. Negative context can mean a negative mindset which, regardless of what the affirmations say or the content, can lead to failure. So even with positive statements, negative context will continually run your life in autopilot mode and determine what your mind will process and see.
However, 1 question is worth 1000 affirmations – and this continues to grow exponentially given how the brain works. Inner Asking uses questions that reach your subconscious mind and engage the brain and elicit empowering answers about the topic.
The questions should always presuppose that the desired outcome has already been achieved and simply ask about that experience. In this way, there’s no room for the brain to resist something that’s already existing or existed.
Here is an example of how subliminal question affirmations are infinitely more powerful than direct command affirmation.
If I send the subliminal command, “you are a billionaire”, your subconscious will instantly resist and reject it and probably bring up all the reasons why you’re not. This is not the experience we want.
But a positive question like, “how joyous and freeing can being a billionaire feel?” This is an intriguing question that sparks the brain’s imagination. It wouldn’t make sense for the brain to answer this with a simple “yes” or “no”, making questions more engaging, thought provoking and non-threatening than direct commands.
Moreover, your brain is wired to seek out answers. Since young, we’ve been asking questions and our brains will seek out to explore these questions. So in asking this question, your brain will naturally:
1. imagine being a billionaire
2. imagine what it feels like being a billionaire
3. determine the limits, if any, of the joyous feelings of being a billionaire
4. determine the limits, if any, of the freeing feelings of being a billionaire
Framing positive statements into less threatening questions deliberately reprograms the RAS instructions on what is sent from your conscious mind. And because the RAS cannot distinguish between real and unreal events, it will simply pass along this information (even simple visualizations) to your subconscious mind. Basically, the questions will point the RAS part of your brain to look for, expect and realize the answers on its own.
The end result: the brain experiences the joy and freedom of being a billionaire. Asking positive questions stimulates your mind to create its own empowering beliefs so positive changes can finally happen without internal resistance.
This is what we want. Without sparking resistance, we caused the brain to experience being a billionaire. You start owning your own beliefs and changing your inner mental context.
Getting past the RAS
Getting past the RAS (which is the gatekeeper of your subconscious mind) is the first step in creating sustainable change. The positive questions will help you bypass the resistance and allow new empowering beliefs to enter into your subconscious mind, allowing more positive thoughts, feelings and habits to take place. That’s how Inner Asking sets work.
Since the RAS plays such a crucial role, attempts like the use of subliminal messages have been made to bypass this to directly implant whatever changes you want into your subconscious. Subliminal messaging supposedly produces changes in your behavior without you becoming consciously aware of it.
Unfortunately, there’s simply no proof that your brain neurons will respond to some source you can’t hear or understand. For them to work, subliminal messages should be audible or understood even if the masking stimulus isn’t present AND even if you conceal them behind these masks to distract your conscious mind.
The subliminal technology used by Inner Asking employs audio masking and messages that are WITHIN a person’s range of hearing and comprehension. So you’re not getting any cryptic, unproven brainwashing like some products claim to be; you’re using strategies which produce results.
Q-firmations speak in a language your subconscious can understand
Whatever you’ve tried previously– whether seeking an expert, reading or giving yourself pep talks–are all rational, logical thoughts only your conscious mind can readily process and understand.
The subliminal messages of Inner Asking on the other hand are not only framed in question form that are aligned with the natural programming of your mind, they also utilize powerful multi-faceted questions that subliminally elicit feelings, visions and your other senses which are understood by your subconscious. Sensory-stimulating questions penetrate deeper into your subconscious as they go beyond the “content” and promote the “context”—your values, feelings, beliefs which are the “language” of your subconscious.
Inner Asking Sets put your mind in its optimal state for change
No matter how many self-help resources you’ve tried and how often you use them, interpreting them and making them meaningful for you are often disrupted by your lack of focus or too much energy or anxiety.
People often recommend meditating to quiet your mind but how much time do you really have to master the art of meditation?
Inner Asking uses a patented brainwave entrainment technology so you can more naturally and effortlessly put your mind in a meditative state that is also most susceptible for changes. Imagine getting yourself completely relaxed and as you go deeper, filters of any instinct to resist changes are also removed and your subconscious starts feeling completely safe and open.
So instead of agitated and high energy brainwaves, you’re now inducing brainwaves that promote intense focus, learning and creativity.
5) They work even as you sleep
How many hours a day do you spend on affirmation commands or motivational CD’s? 2 hours? 5 hours? What if you can get your brain to work on these changes 8 hours or more while you sleep? Remember, your subconscious mind operates 24 hours every day even as you sleep.
Whereas other programs offer only positive commands while awake OR induce sleep alone, Inner Asking comes with an exclusive sleep programming brainwave technology not just for a great night’s sleep but also to harness your brain’s power in its most receptive state. This means, your brain continues to process positive, engaging questions while doing something you naturally do everyday—sleep.
What’s included in an Inner Asking Set:
For each of the four elements of lasting personal growth—possibility, identity, belief, and action—you get an Inner Asking Set which includes:
-A power nap mind programming track with advanced brain entrainment technology for each of the four elements of lasting personal growth—possibility, identity, belief, and action
-A night programming mind track with advanced brainwave entrainment technology for each of the four elements of lasting personal growth—possibility, identity, belief, and action
-An audio track with silent subliminal messaging for each of the four elements of lasting personal growth—possibility, identity, belief, and action
-A comprehensive workbook to keep a record of your progress and unlock the power of Inner Asking
By addressing for each of the four elements of lasting personal growth—possibility, identity, belief, and action- at the same time, this Inner Asking Set will allow you to maximize your results and achieve lasting transformation. Whether it is personal growth, career success or relationships, re-scripting your inner dialogue with Inner Asking will set you up for a remarkable journey of self-discovery!
So how do you use your Inner Asking Subliminal Program?
1) Take a 15 or 30-minute deep programming break – just 2-3 times a week
2) Use the Sleep programming every night for 14 days
3) To reinforce, listen to the “anytime” tracks in the background (no music to hate, just the natural sounds of rain, ocean, etc.)
4) You can also even use silent subliminal to get the same results with no conscious sound
Very soon, you can expect to get:
1. New inspiration to act – When you’re inspired to do something or go somewhere, follow it…you’re now new tugs and impulses that are more in line with your goals.
2. New perspective on yourself and your life
3. Law of attraction working positively for you – you begin to attract a new world of thought, feelings and behaviors that lead to more of what you want.